Happiness......

If you find me happy, maybe I am thinking about you,
When I see you, happiness seems moving and true,
The quality time we have spent together were life’s best moments
Such times have closely built my world around you…………..

I could not find happiness till I was searching for it,
I found it in moments when I forgot about it,
The moments spend with you; will last a lifetime,
Till time stops the life’s sweet-bitter -sour rhyme………………

I believe nobody is indispensable and it is true,
Until I think about the time spent with you,
My serious thoughts have begun to dissolve in the solace of your companion,
I have again started to believe in a bouquet of emotions,

I think it’s time when I should say what’s due,
Your smiles lights up the world around you,
Whenever I smile, I need no reason to feel the happiness,
Because I am always thinking about you…………………….

Copyright 2008, Alok Sharma

Move On.............

I never learned to live life,
The way so called gentlemen perceive,
In the world of extraordinary gentlemen,
Sometimes I am not able to breathe………

Hippocracy rules the minds and hearts,
Loyalty and truthfulness are things of the past,
Smart idiots are considered better then sincere men,
Then we complain about the stress and pain.

Wonder why people complain,
When they win or loose games for there own gain,
Because life does not guarantee the way it will take,
This is the lesson we all shall attain.

If there is a Sunset there will be a dawn,
We just need to Move on, Walk on, Rock on……

Copyright 2008, Alok Sharma

Me, Myself and Emotions............

When I love, I don’t doubt it
When I fall, I don’t falter
When I lie, I accept it
When I cry, I understand it

When I get hurt, I relax
When I make memories, I don’t bound
When I am away, I trust
When I feel guilty, I confess

When I get happiness, I enjoy
When I get sadness, I analyze
When I get angry, I don’t take decisions
When I get shaky, I stabilize

When I fear, I am in prayer
When I make love, I am in passion
When I disappear, I find time for myself
When I trust, I am dedicated

When I am indecisive, I wait
When I am confused, I discuss
When I am distressed, I hug
When I am not satisfied, I work hard

When I feel fortunate, I thank
When I feel concerned, I address
When I feel torn, I express
When I feel overjoyed, I control

Because I believe in making things better with each moment for me and everyone around,
Keeping my feet strongly glued to the ground
This is my way to get relaxed among the busy walks of life
I listen to my heart in this jungle of extraordinary sounds…………………..


Copyright 2008, Alok Sharma

Relations

What to write. This is one of those times of life when you have so much to express but you don’t get enough words to express yourself. Ohhh, no current incident inspires me to write this but at the same time it’s a topic which I feel is a matter of prime concern for everyone. We also need to set appropriate expectation levels for each of our relationships.

We all have performed one side of different roles in various relationships. These experiences give us a learning to handle various situations in life. I classify my relations into three broad categories Acquaintances, good to have, and must haves. At any point of time in life, I do not feel you can have more than 10 (Apart from your folks) people in the must have category. Please note that I do not consider any gender bias for any of the above named categories.

Acquaintances are timepasses who does not really matter. It doesn’t really matter if they are with us or not. These relationships are best explained in the age group of 15 years to 30 Years. Believe me there will be times when you count someone in must haves and they will put you in acquaintances. Whenever you come to realize this, the resultant pain is all due to the poor expectation management on your part.

The realization that you have over imposed yourself onto someone when there was no good response from the other side is stressing and painful. Few good words to explain this “Dil se milne ki tamanna nahi hai jab dil mein, haath se haath milane ki zarurat kya hai”. Whenever you realize that you are into such a situation, I believe the best way is to make a graceful exit before you stress yourself from the burden of carrying dead meat any further.

The other two categories are pretty much important lot. We should try to be selective while scanning people for these two categories. Must haves shall be handled with extreme priority. These relationships need to be cared (and sometimes even pampered). Sometimes we walk so fast that we leave everyone else far behind. The realization happens when we actually reach alone at the top. I have seen instances where people have questioned themselves“If we are gaining financial prosperity, why are we not happy ”.

Make sure that you always have time to receive an incoming call and say “I will call you later”. It makes the person at other end feel good. It is very common I guess to feel frustrated when someone does not pick up the phone or hangs up.

During college (UG), I met Ms Kiran Bedi. She gave us a great insight on priorities and life. The slip method (as I remember this) works all the time. Since I have left following this method, the quality of life has deteriorated. The slip method instructs us to maintain two lists. First list lists all tasks that need immediate attention whereas the second list contains tasks that can be done later. You shall frequently add, delete, or transfer tasks from both the lists. Try it for at least six months and you will eventually find out that most of the issues that caused stress in your relationships have already been taken care.

Good relationships make us feel comfortable. Watch out before you set expectations and love unconditionally.

Change in Attitude........

A page from the diary of my room mate...... Translated with due permissions from the author

She is not my types but opposites attract. I feel good when I am with her but still the comprehensions of a would it be Ok, grips my mind. There were at least three occasions when I came close to her and started saying this but the breakdown at the last moment makes it almost impossible for me at times. She is young, vibrent and enthusiastic. Perhaps, soemtimes she does an overconfident act that later makes her realize that "ohhh! was it ok or I looked a bit weired". Maybe, she is also trying to understand this mean and tough world like me where I trusted nobody for years. But now she is there on my mind (I wanted but cannot use "in my life").

I still recall the moment when I proposed a young lady (the first time I mean) around 10 years ago. This moment is one of the most precious memories of my
life. I was sitting on the pavement close to the college canteen. She was coming from the opposite direction. I breaked into a conversion with a stupid
stupid tagline "Did it hurt when you fell down from heaven".
She smiled and replied "What?".
I replied "You look awesome today"
She giggled and said nothing. I realizaed this was my real chance.
I continued the form with another tagline "Do you have any raisins? How about a date?"
She just smiled and walked away. I guess this was the sign of a silent approval from her side.

Ten long years have passed and I have shifted into a comfort shell of my own which supresses me from doing whacky or indifferent things. Priorities change with time, we all become toys in the hands of priorities. I believe I am into a great depression whereby I am not able to express my feeling to someone whom I meet everyday, chat regularly in and after official work, go for movies, dinners and what not. Still the fear of loss seems to grip my mind everytime before saying "Let's get togather".
I do not wish to conclude but I have nothing more to write. As I write this, the lines "Dont gimme attitude, I have one of my own" seems so fickle.

Phir Dekhiye

Aankhon Mein Jis Ke Koi To Khwab Hai
Khush Tha Wahin Jo Thoda Betaab Hai
Zindagi Mein Koi Arzoo Kijiye
Phir Dekhiye ……

Hoton Pe Jis Ke, Koi To Geet Hai
Woh Haare Bhi To, Us Ki Hi Jeet Hai
Dil Mein Jo Geet Hai, Gun Guna Lijiye
Phir Dekhiye…….

Yaadon Mein Jis Ke, Kisi Ka Naam Hai
Sapno Ke Jaise, Us Ki Har Sham Hai
Koi To Aaj Se, Apna Dil Dijiye
Phir Dekhiye…..

Khwab Bhun Yeh Zara, Geet Sun Yeh Zara
Phool Chun Yeh Zara
Phir Dekhiye….

Khayal.........

Dil se nikal kar sadayen bhi kuch baatein karti hain
Kuch raaste mein dum todti hain, kuch manzil par marti hain
kuch sapno mein raat bhar sone nahi deti aur kuch jagti aankhon se dikhai deti hain
Majboor hoon is soch mein, mann apna par soch parai hai

Apna shahar hi ab apna sa lagta nahi aajkal
Ya toh hum badle hain ya log alag hain
Koi dikhta nahi is bheed mein jise apna keh sako
har koi bas kahin bhagta lagta hain aajkal.

Tere mere beech mein bandhan nahi koi
Toh kyon teri oor khicha aata hoon main
Jab aaya tere nazdeek tujhe jaanne ke liye
khud ko aksar akela, bahut akela pata hoon main

zamana laakh koshish kar le par zamana hi rahega
Ab kuch toh kal kuch aur kahega
sab ki zuban ko chup karana nahi mumkin
Dil ki sunne par hi mera zor rahega

(C) 2008, Alok Sharma

Bas Ek Lamha

The life is moving on, one day at a time. As they say, there are days and there are days. Sometimes we feel that a particular day should stay forever, but time moves on. There are times when we tell ourselves, it's a long day.

It is amazing how things shape up with time. As a teenager, we make a lot of commitments to ourselves but it is amazing that these resolutions break by late twenties.

Ahhh, there you go, don't feel sorry thinking about one past resolution that never took shape. We all are creatures that work on a priority, and priorities change with time.

I just completed the book "Happiness by Tal Ben Sher". When I started reading this book, there were random thoughts of wage motivational suggestion that might be there in this book. I personally recommend this book to everyone I know and love. The author has a great regard for happy moments. Did it reminded of something, maybe the bell at pizza hut, which carries the message, "Had a good time, ring the bell".

It takes just a moment of madness to change the whole life. Believe me, we all have an attitude that is not even known to us. It comes out either at the worst or the best time. It transforms us into a Hero or a criminal. So, Watch your thoughts carefully.

The Johny Walker Mascot still reminds me about the necessity of life "KEEP WALKING". Ohhhh, I can still hear the song "I tried so hard...... In the end it does not even matter" running in my mind as I write this.

Dil Dhoondta Hai.................

Still recall the title line of this beautiful song and wonder how beautifully it fits any current day scenario. The first taste of exuberance of youth was the most thrilling and exciting moment of life. Although, it's still a very decent age for me and many modern day colleagues but those days of acute freedom will never come back again.

I wonder when god designed human life what exact thoughts would have been there in his mind. All those silly jolly emotions like happiness, sorrows, love, lust, liking, excitement and what not. Undoubtedly, we remain the best creation of almighty till date. Things change but our basic emotions come out with even odd memories of life.

Changes make us a better human being but by nature we always are reluctant to change. Comfort zone funda I guess, but it does not work for long. The thought of living with the same pocket money of college days seems difficult but the memories always point to those no work full tension days. Tiny little things used to make us feel good or bad. Times of spending hours with people and then calling them after reaching home, ohhh, it seems silly today but remains as the best days of our lives.

This is not a discussion but a moment of thought that striked me and I wanted to share the same to a wider audience. Not even a discussion as some things are not meant to be discussed.

Happiness and excitement go hand in hand. The fun is not bounded by a CTC, either it is there or it is not. Take it as a tip, Happiness is not a standpoint but a journey that bounds the exciting moments in joy and expectation. There are so many virtues that are bound to happen but we still feel happy and excited about them. For instance, the first faltering steps of a baby are aways precious to any parent but we always knew that the child will walk.


I always think a line which says, "Shikwa kaise karein zindagi se, shayad uske liye bhi waqt nahi hai". Believe me, if you are committed to something, there will never be a dearth of time for doing that thing.